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What to write in a thinking of you card

In a thinking of you card, tell them plainly that they’ve been on your mind and why, whether it’s a hard time, a big change or simply that you miss them. Add one warm, specific detail and let them know there’s no need to reply. It doesn’t need a reason or a solution, just presence.

19 examples below: Short and simple · Heartfelt · Funny · Formal

Short and simple

A line or two that says “you matter to me” with no occasion needed.

“You’ve been on my mind this week. Just wanted you to know.”
“No reason, no occasion. Just thinking of you and smiling.”
“Sending a little sunshine your way today.”
“Saw a heron at the pond this morning and thought of you instantly.”
“Holding you close in my thoughts right now.”
A sample sympathy card front: a quiet hand-drawn sprig on soft paper
A sample card front in our hand-drawn style. The message is written inside with a real pen.

Heartfelt

For someone going through something hard, or a friend you miss.

“I know this year has asked a lot of you. I don’t need you to be okay. I just want you to know I’m in your corner.”
“It’s been three months since your dad passed, and I imagine the cards have slowed down. I’m still thinking of you, and of him.”
“I miss our long walks and the way you always ask the second question. Life’s busy, but you’re never far from my mind.”
“Starting over in a new city is brave and lonely at the same time. Call me any night you want a familiar voice.”
“I can’t fix any of it, but I can bring soup on Sunday and sit with you for as long as you like.”
“You’re one of the kindest people I know, and I hope someone is being that kind to you right now.”
“No need to write back. I just wanted you to open the mailbox and find something that says you’re loved.”

Funny

For lighter moments, a long-distance friend or a bad week that needs a smile.

“Thinking of you, and of that time we got locked out of the car with the engine running. Good times.”
“This card is a hug in paper form. Please hold it against your face for the full effect.”
“I would have called, but then you’d have to talk on the phone, and I care about you too much for that.”
“Just a reminder that you are awesome and your houseplants are lucky to have you.”

Formal

For a coworker, client or acquaintance during a difficult time.

“Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts during this difficult time.”
“Thinking of you and wishing you strength in the weeks ahead.”
“We’re holding you in our thoughts and are here if there is anything we can do.”

Do

  • Say why you’re thinking of them if there’s a reason, plainly and kindly.
  • Include one specific memory or detail that makes it clearly about them.
  • Tell them they don’t need to reply.
  • Send one around hard dates, like an anniversary of a loss or a first holiday alone.
  • Make a specific offer if you can follow through on it.

Don’t

  • Don’t try to fix their problem or tell them how to feel.
  • Don’t say “everything happens for a reason” or “at least…”.
  • Don’t turn the card into news about your own life.
  • Don’t make it a guilt trip about how long it’s been since you talked.

How to write it

Start by naming the feeling: “I’ve been thinking about you.” If there’s a reason, like an illness, a loss, a job change or distance, mention it gently without dwelling on details.

Then add something personal: a memory, a quality you admire in them, or a small thing that reminded you of them this week.

Close with presence rather than solutions. “I’m here,” “No need to reply” or a concrete offer, then sign off with “Thinking of you,” “Always” or “With love.”

Questions

Any time someone is on your mind: during an illness, after a loss, through a divorce or a job change, around a hard anniversary, or simply because you miss them. No occasion is needed.

Not quite. A sympathy card responds to a death. A thinking of you card is broader and works for anything hard, and it’s also a gentle choice weeks or months after a loss.

Keep it general and warm: “You’ve been on my mind and I just wanted to say hello. I’m here if you ever want to talk.” You don’t need details to show you care.

A gentle mention is usually kinder than pretending nothing happened. Name it simply, then focus on them, not the situation.

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